Comparing ourselves…

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Each of us have had a different Path on our Life Experience. We know we are individuals, but we often don’t know how to look at our Self without comparing our Self with others. Most of us have had the notion ingrained in us at an early age that have to be like someone, or better than someone or not like someone. It is almost comical to think how we are told to be an individual but be like this. It almost like telling someone to win a car race but you have to keep the emergency brake on while driving.

Now I am not saying that we should not notice the differences in others around us; that to me is actually a beautiful feature that I look for in everyone I meet. So what if we were to be cognizant of others’ differences without having to put our Self on the scale of better or worse than another’s Self.

I have not mastered the art of not comparing myself, though I continually work on my perspective. Funny, I am about 6’4′ and many say that I am tall. I tell them I am average height and they scoff at me.  I tell them, everyone I know is either taler than me or shorter than me, therefore I am average height 🙂 I also see myself as the same age as each person I talk with which makes it very easy for me to talk with very young children and “adults aka older children”!

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We have so many different facets of our own existence and we could compare each one with someone else and this would prove to be a daunting series of tasks, and to what end? Why not let everyone BE whom they are and YOU BE whom you are? You are a beautiful Spirit existing in human form for this current Life Experience. I like what Abraham said about this:

“See this world as a free world, and see everyone in it as trying—through their individual experiences—to find their way back to that calling, back to that Source Energy. And even though there are billions of them going about it in a way that is different than you would choose, there’s no right or wrong way. In other words, bless them all, and get on with the only thing you have any power about, which is opening or closing your vortex to your natural state of Well-Being.

If all you did was just look for things to appreciate you would live a joyous, spectacular life. If there was nothing else that you ever came to understand other than just look for things to appreciate, it’s the only tool you would ever need to predominantly hook you up with who you really are. That’s all you’d need.”

Learning to live with less comparisons and letting others BE can allow us to be happy with “being me.”

My Love, Peace and Happiness to You,

Tony Sellaway

Author of Life: Without the Rose Tinted Glasses

Being Individual but Not Separate

Each of us that currently reside on this little planet we call Earth, have an idea that we are different individuals. But individual “what?”

Here is a supposition; Let’s say that some time ago in “The Beginning” of existence, everything started from a thought which materialized in matter. This matter altogether was the size of a pea, and then the energy within it caused the “Big Bang” which was the expansion of all matter into the Universe. So everything that IS had its common Origin from that One Source, and the expansion and reproduction continues from all that WAS then.

 

All the materials that make up the stars and planets came from this same beginning as did we. Now, let us say that since we all came from the same Source, we are all connected. If you were to ask someone, “Who are You?”, what would be the typical response? Many would respond with “distinctions or labels” such as race, job title, political or religious affiliation, or other different things that we DO or use to “describe our individualism.” What if we started to look at each other as part of the Human Family that inhabits this planet, without using those “differentiating descriptors”? Imagine the unity of seven billion people all living in peace as One Family. So you currently don’t get along with your family, and why should adding seven billion more family members make things easier? Dr. Wayne Dyer said, “Friends are God’s way of apologizing for our family!”

My own personal thought is that the most prevalent reason for our current level of discontent is the idea that we are all separate from one another AND The Source.

Another leap in the previous supposition; not only are all persons connected, but every thing that exists is connected since it all came from the same Source. A person can now say that they are an individual, yes; but rather than an individual person, an individual piece of the Entire Universe.

Tony Sellaway

Author of Life: Without the Rose Tinted Glasses

BEing what You Want…

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On our Life Path, we grow and we awaken. As we awaken to the knowledge of our True Self, what we want in our Life Experience changes. Wherever we are on the rise from merely existing to becoming “enlightened”, this is a personal marker to gauge our own progress rather than where we are compared to another person. When we reduce our comparison with others, we allow ourselves a freedom to Be whom we are and others to be whom they are with less divisiveness.

In our search for many things or states of existence; such as a mate or a friend, Happiness or Peace, or just a getaway place; we are often looking outside of of our Self to find what we are looking for. When we start paying attention to what we are BEing at the Present Moment and then seeing what we are BEing most of the time, we will begin to see a correlation to what our “search engine” produces. When we are being Happy, Friendly or Kind, we can expect to “find” more of the same returns. Conversely, when we are angry, sad or bitter, we will have that reflected back to us.

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So when we start to see that we get back what we ARE BEING, we must then start BEing what we want.It takes small steps and thought patterns, but when we do the small, simple things well, daily or better yet in each Present Moment, we will change our world. As more do the same, we change the World.

What are you BEing?

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Keep smiling! My Love, Peace and Happiness to you

Tony Sellaway, author of Life: Without the Rose Tinted Glasses

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The Importance Of Being Spiritually Grounded – The Art Of Ancient Wisdom

There is a famous saying that goes, “Psychology without spirituality is arid and ultimately meaningless, while spirituality without grounding in psychological work leads to vanity and illusions.” If you consider yourself a spiritual being, it is very important to do whatever it takes to remain spiritually grounded. Many people who are inclined to study metaphysics […]

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How is Your Life Flowing?

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When we look around at our individual situation right now, what we see depends on our point of view.

A theme to my Life Experience is, “We don’t see the world as it is, we see it the way we are.” Each of us has a unique perspective when we view a situation. The same situation can and will have a different meaning for each person; and that is OK. In each Present Moment, we have a choice as to how or what we are going to BE. We think “I am happy and grateful” and our view of our surroundings will from a positive view. Conversely, when we think “I am really perturbed or frustrated”, our perspective will tend to be a bit negative. in short though, our point of view is influenced by how we are in the moment.

 

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React v. Respond

As a situation or event unfolds in front of us, we have a choice in how we are going to handle it. One of my earlier teachers in my awakening taught me to think ten times before I speak. Thought travels at 24 billion miles per second so there is not actually a long delay in the response. The practice of hearing, listening, thinking and BEing in a particular state of mind before commenting or acting allows for One to respond with intention rather than to react to the situation with sometimes unintended feelings, emotions, words and/or actions.

 

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As we allow ourselves to BE in a state of Peace, Happiness and Love, and looking for the lesson we are to learn from it, our view of a situation will let is be “responsable” rather than reactive. You are constantly in the flow of the stream of the Universe; you can decide whether to paddle upstream against the current or use the paddles to guide you downstream with the current. It is then not a matter of ignoring unpleasant situations but rather adjusting our point of view which then allows us to maintain a “Calm in the Storm of the Life situation.”

 

Tony Sellaway

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Which Way?

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My goal each day is to make people smile. There are so many persons, 7+ billion, each on a journey right now. As I continue to learn, grow and awaken, it becomes more evident that there is no “only way” for a person to attain a higher state of consciousness in their spiritual or religious lives. This is each of our own unique Life Experience. I am a teacher, not a preacher, and as such see that there are many paths to enlightenment. Let us consider that the person that is saying that their way is “the only” way could be more open-minded and less divisive by understanding there is “another way” or even “a better way” rather than “the only way.”

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Rejecting another way of doing something without even looking at its merits or plausibility is very limiting to one’s knowledge. Keep your mind open to other points of view. With your mind open, it won’t fall out, but it will expand 🙂

My Love, Peace and Happiness to each of you as we continue to grow and awaken on Our Path

Tony Sellaway

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What Do You See?

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When you look at another person, what do you see?

You and two associates are in a room awaiting the arrival of a fourth person, whom you have not met before. When the person comes into the room, what do you and your associates see in the person? Each of you will have an assessment of the individual. Will each of you have the same perception? What is that is seen by each person? There will likely be a difference in what each person sees .

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One’s perception can be influenced by several factors. We see what we look for. We see what we like or dislike.We see labels. We see what WE ARE. Each person is going to be influenced by some of these factors, and if by the same factors, to varying degrees. So each person has a different perspective when they sum the fourth person of interest up. Now does this mean that the person of interest is three different persons?

This shows us that when we put labels and definitions on others, we are not defining them, we are defining ourselves. When we begin to  look at another person without placing labels upon them and simply as another pleasant spirit having a Life Experience as a human being, just like ourselves, then  maybe when can dissolve the dissimilarities and divisions.

An approach that I like to practice is understanding that many persons believe that the Creator or Universe; you can use whatever name you like; is our source of origin. Many understand the concept of being the children of God. Now here’s my take on this. God has children, but not grandchildren, therefore each person I meet is my Brother or Sister 🙂

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