Comparing ourselves…


Each of us have had a different Path on our Life Experience. We know we are individuals, but we often don’t know how to look at our Self without comparing our Self with others. Most of us have had the notion ingrained in us at an early age that have to be like someone, or better than someone or not like someone. It is almost comical to think how we are told to be an individual but be like this. It almost like telling someone to win a car race but you have to keep the emergency brake on while driving.

Now I am not saying that we should not notice the differences in others around us; that to me is actually a beautiful feature that I look for in everyone I meet. So what if we were to be cognizant of others’ differences without having to put our Self on the scale of better or worse than another’s Self.

I have not mastered the art of not comparing myself, though I continually work on my perspective. Funny, I am about 6’4′ and many say that I am tall. I tell them I am average height and they scoff at me.  I tell them, everyone I know is either taler than me or shorter than me, therefore I am average height 🙂 I also see myself as the same age as each person I talk with which makes it very easy for me to talk with very young children and “adults aka older children”!

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We have so many different facets of our own existence and we could compare each one with someone else and this would prove to be a daunting series of tasks, and to what end? Why not let everyone BE whom they are and YOU BE whom you are? You are a beautiful Spirit existing in human form for this current Life Experience. I like what Abraham said about this:

“See this world as a free world, and see everyone in it as trying—through their individual experiences—to find their way back to that calling, back to that Source Energy. And even though there are billions of them going about it in a way that is different than you would choose, there’s no right or wrong way. In other words, bless them all, and get on with the only thing you have any power about, which is opening or closing your vortex to your natural state of Well-Being.

If all you did was just look for things to appreciate you would live a joyous, spectacular life. If there was nothing else that you ever came to understand other than just look for things to appreciate, it’s the only tool you would ever need to predominantly hook you up with who you really are. That’s all you’d need.”

Learning to live with less comparisons and letting others BE can allow us to be happy with “being me.”

My Love, Peace and Happiness to You,

Tony Sellaway

Author of Life: Without the Rose Tinted Glasses


Can A Question Allow Possibilities?

willing to change anything

I often say, “The best way to get an answer is to ask a question.” So what does asking a question bring into existence? Is it possible that the answer might not even be what we are looking for? As I continue on my Path to Enlightenment, one of my mentors and Spiritual Inspirations, Stephanie Richardson, has shown me that questions raise possibilities.

When we ask a question and look for the opportunities that can flow from the question itself rather than just looking for a solution, when begin to see a range of different scenarios that can BE. What am I saying? Often when we look just for a solution or answer, we look for something based on our prior”knowledge or situation.” This can be a limiting point of view as we might only look for something we think is “possible” from where we are. What’s “wrong” with that? Nothing, it is just that where you are is an accumulation of all the choices you have already made. So what if we instead look at what larger opportunities or different ways to BE could actually lead us to our growth AND awakening? In other words, looking just for and answer could actually limit your possible choices of a solution that would benefit you. It has been said that the solution may not be solved from the same mind that created the problem. And what if the solution from that “mind” is only extension of the “limited present reality”?

One tool or question that Dr. Dain Heer of Access Consciousness has shown me is simply, “How can it get better than this?”

As you are going about your daily Life Experience, just ask, “How can it get better than this?” See what presents itself.  And then ask the question again.

My Love, Peace & Happiness to You,

Tony Sellaway

Author of Life: Without the Rose Tinted Glasses