Comparing ourselves…

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Each of us have had a different Path on our Life Experience. We know we are individuals, but we often don’t know how to look at our Self without comparing our Self with others. Most of us have had the notion ingrained in us at an early age that have to be like someone, or better than someone or not like someone. It is almost comical to think how we are told to be an individual but be like this. It almost like telling someone to win a car race but you have to keep the emergency brake on while driving.

Now I am not saying that we should not notice the differences in others around us; that to me is actually a beautiful feature that I look for in everyone I meet. So what if we were to be cognizant of others’ differences without having to put our Self on the scale of better or worse than another’s Self.

I have not mastered the art of not comparing myself, though I continually work on my perspective. Funny, I am about 6’4′ and many say that I am tall. I tell them I am average height and they scoff at me.  I tell them, everyone I know is either taler than me or shorter than me, therefore I am average height 🙂 I also see myself as the same age as each person I talk with which makes it very easy for me to talk with very young children and “adults aka older children”!

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We have so many different facets of our own existence and we could compare each one with someone else and this would prove to be a daunting series of tasks, and to what end? Why not let everyone BE whom they are and YOU BE whom you are? You are a beautiful Spirit existing in human form for this current Life Experience. I like what Abraham said about this:

“See this world as a free world, and see everyone in it as trying—through their individual experiences—to find their way back to that calling, back to that Source Energy. And even though there are billions of them going about it in a way that is different than you would choose, there’s no right or wrong way. In other words, bless them all, and get on with the only thing you have any power about, which is opening or closing your vortex to your natural state of Well-Being.

If all you did was just look for things to appreciate you would live a joyous, spectacular life. If there was nothing else that you ever came to understand other than just look for things to appreciate, it’s the only tool you would ever need to predominantly hook you up with who you really are. That’s all you’d need.”

Learning to live with less comparisons and letting others BE can allow us to be happy with “being me.”

My Love, Peace and Happiness to You,

Tony Sellaway

Author of Life: Without the Rose Tinted Glasses

BEing what You Want…

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On our Life Path, we grow and we awaken. As we awaken to the knowledge of our True Self, what we want in our Life Experience changes. Wherever we are on the rise from merely existing to becoming “enlightened”, this is a personal marker to gauge our own progress rather than where we are compared to another person. When we reduce our comparison with others, we allow ourselves a freedom to Be whom we are and others to be whom they are with less divisiveness.

In our search for many things or states of existence; such as a mate or a friend, Happiness or Peace, or just a getaway place; we are often looking outside of of our Self to find what we are looking for. When we start paying attention to what we are BEing at the Present Moment and then seeing what we are BEing most of the time, we will begin to see a correlation to what our “search engine” produces. When we are being Happy, Friendly or Kind, we can expect to “find” more of the same returns. Conversely, when we are angry, sad or bitter, we will have that reflected back to us.

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So when we start to see that we get back what we ARE BEING, we must then start BEing what we want.It takes small steps and thought patterns, but when we do the small, simple things well, daily or better yet in each Present Moment, we will change our world. As more do the same, we change the World.

What are you BEing?

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Keep smiling! My Love, Peace and Happiness to you

Tony Sellaway, author of Life: Without the Rose Tinted Glasses

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How is Your Life Flowing?

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When we look around at our individual situation right now, what we see depends on our point of view.

A theme to my Life Experience is, “We don’t see the world as it is, we see it the way we are.” Each of us has a unique perspective when we view a situation. The same situation can and will have a different meaning for each person; and that is OK. In each Present Moment, we have a choice as to how or what we are going to BE. We think “I am happy and grateful” and our view of our surroundings will from a positive view. Conversely, when we think “I am really perturbed or frustrated”, our perspective will tend to be a bit negative. in short though, our point of view is influenced by how we are in the moment.

 

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React v. Respond

As a situation or event unfolds in front of us, we have a choice in how we are going to handle it. One of my earlier teachers in my awakening taught me to think ten times before I speak. Thought travels at 24 billion miles per second so there is not actually a long delay in the response. The practice of hearing, listening, thinking and BEing in a particular state of mind before commenting or acting allows for One to respond with intention rather than to react to the situation with sometimes unintended feelings, emotions, words and/or actions.

 

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As we allow ourselves to BE in a state of Peace, Happiness and Love, and looking for the lesson we are to learn from it, our view of a situation will let is be “responsable” rather than reactive. You are constantly in the flow of the stream of the Universe; you can decide whether to paddle upstream against the current or use the paddles to guide you downstream with the current. It is then not a matter of ignoring unpleasant situations but rather adjusting our point of view which then allows us to maintain a “Calm in the Storm of the Life situation.”

 

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Your Choice is Your Freedom

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We have probably heard that when we blame someone or something, we give that someone our power or that something power over us. Each of us are on Our Path, we grow, we learn, we awaken. We see our Life Experience and we have thoughts, feelings and emotions about where we are and what we are. We can question how we got here and why we are here. In all of our dealings on our Path, we have choices. We choose what we want to believe created the world we live in, we choose whom we want to believe is The Creator, The Universe, God, you can use what name you are familiar with as there are many names used.

One thing that keeps Us apart is division. Sounds simple, yes? On one level, when we see ourselves as separate from our Source, we are creating a division. We then see a division between all the things that the Source has made. So if we now blame The Source for our Life Experience, we are relinquishing our power AND responsibility for where we are.

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Going back to our ability to choose, well let’s go all the way back to our “beginning.” When we prescribe to the idea that we chose to be here, we chose our parents, we chose this Life Experience; it was so we could grow, then awaken to our knowledge of Self and then influence our world. WE ARE connected to The Source,  as we are the source, the universe. If we stop talking about The Source in third person and start living all the ancient texts and scriptures as say an autobiography, we regain our power and relinquish the separateness of all that is. The Universe is Love, Peace, Happiness and One. It is The Source of everything.

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When we choose to BE Love, Peace and Happiness by thinking, saying and then being – “I Am Love,” we are then being The Universe. This choice gives us the freedom to know that we create our world, we have the power to influence what it will be. This is choosing to take responsibility for our Life Experience, no more blaming, now just living in our power to create our world.

 

My Love, Peace and Happiness to You

Tony Sellaway

Author of Life: Without the Rose Tinted Glasses

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