Comparing ourselves…

Each of us have had a different Path on our Life Experience. We know we are individuals, but we often don’t know how to look at our Self without comparing our Self with others. Most of us have had the notion ingrained in us at an early age that have to be like someone, or better than someone or not like someone. It is almost comical to think how we are told to be an individual but be like this. It almost like telling someone to win a car race but you have to keep the emergency brake on while driving.

Now I am not saying that we should not notice the differences in others around us; that to me is actually a beautiful feature that I look for in everyone I meet. So what if we were to be cognizant of others’ differences without having to put our Self on the scale of better or worse than another’s Self.

I have not mastered the art of not comparing myself, though I continually work on my perspective. Funny, I am about 6’4′ and many say that I am tall. I tell them I am average height and they scoff at me.  I tell them, everyone I know is either taler than me or shorter than me, therefore I am average height 🙂 I also see myself as the same age as each person I talk with which makes it very easy for me to talk with very young children and “adults aka older children”!

We have so many different facets of our own existence and we could compare each one with someone else and this would prove to be a daunting series of tasks, and to what end? Why not let everyone BE whom they are and YOU BE whom you are? You are a beautiful Spirit existing in human form for this current Life Experience. I like what Abraham said about this:

“See this world as a free world, and see everyone in it as trying—through their individual experiences—to find their way back to that calling, back to that Source Energy. And even though there are billions of them going about it in a way that is different than you would choose, there’s no right or wrong way. In other words, bless them all, and get on with the only thing you have any power about, which is opening or closing your vortex to your natural state of Well-Being.

If all you did was just look for things to appreciate you would live a joyous, spectacular life. If there was nothing else that you ever came to understand other than just look for things to appreciate, it’s the only tool you would ever need to predominantly hook you up with who you really are. That’s all you’d need.”

Learning to live with less comparisons and letting others BE can allow us to be happy with “being me.”

My Love, Peace and Happiness to You,

Tony Sellaway

Author of Life: Without the Rose Tinted Glasses

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How are We connected?

Gregg Braden has said one of the more important questions we can ask is “Who am I?” The answer to this question can then lead us to a much deeper understanding of our Self and the world we create around us. When we go way back to what can be said in some writings, “In the beginning …”, there was nothing physical existing, but out of a thought from the Initial Source there began the creation of matter, energy and Being. So if we liken this to a small pea which contained all that was to come forth as the thoughts and thus The Universe continually expands, we can see that everything started from the same Source, which means everything has an original connection.

“Thought that is projected, now thinks. So it’s not possible to separate the thinker from the thought, because the thinker thinks a thought, and then the thought thinks and becomes a thinker, and then the thought, that was a thought that is now a thinker, thinks another thought, which becomes a thinker, also. And so, there is a constant summoning of Life Force. Now, a thought that is thought longer becomes Thought Form. A thought that is thought upon by many, becomes Thought Form. A thought that is thought upon by many, in a very clear undiluted fashion, as from Nonphysical Perspective where there is no resistance, becomes physical matter. That’s why the physical universe is a by-product of the Nonphysical attention or focus. So, the Nonphysical Energy that created this physical mass from the Energy of the Universe, the mass itself, now becomes a thought that is thinking, that is attracting the Energy.”

—Abraham

Excerpted from: Los Angeles, CA, on August 02, 1998

Realizing that we are all connected to EVERYTHING and EVERYONE should change the way we look at others, not as enemies, rather as a separate expression of ourselves in other beings, all one family. And as we are all one family, then why don’t we  begin to look for the most loving way to interact with every Being we encounter?

Gregg Braden explains this in a series by Gaia called  “Missing Links” and in a Gregg Braden Q&A with Gaia

Sending You my Love, Peace and Happiness!

Tony Sellaway

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BEing what You Want…

On our Life Path, we grow and we awaken. As we awaken to the knowledge of our True Self, what we want in our Life Experience changes. Wherever we are on the rise from merely existing to becoming “enlightened”, this is a personal marker to gauge our own progress rather than where we are compared to another person. When we reduce our comparison with others, we allow ourselves a freedom to Be whom we are and others to be whom they are with less divisiveness.

In our search for many things or states of existence; such as a mate or a friend, Happiness or Peace, or just a getaway place; we are often looking outside of of our Self to find what we are looking for. When we start paying attention to what we are BEing at the Present Moment and then seeing what we are BEing most of the time, we will begin to see a correlation to what our “search engine” produces. When we are being Happy, Friendly or Kind, we can expect to “find” more of the same returns. Conversely, when we are angry, sad or bitter, we will have that reflected back to us.

So when we start to see that we get back what we ARE BEING, we must then start BEing what we want.It takes small steps and thought patterns, but when we do the small, simple things well, daily or better yet in each Present Moment, we will change our world. As more do the same, we change the World.

What are you BEing?

Keep smiling! My Love, Peace and Happiness to you

Tony Sellaway, author of Life: Without the Rose Tinted Glasses

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Letting Go to BE Happy

“It is said that most people spend their lives regretting the past and fearing the future; therefore, they are unable to experience joy in the present.”
― David R. Hawkins, Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender

What might a primary obstacle to our freedom to Be Happy? One thing that many of us DO often is compare. When we compare, we are necessarily setting up sides, duality or maybe an either/or scenario. We are all individuals, there are currently 7 billion + of us rotating around the Sun on this small rock we call Earth 🙂 That is a lot of individuality to contend with if we choose to do so.

When we look at ourselves, we could find many different areas to compare our self with others: physically, financially, mentally and spiritually just to name a few. In any of the many areas we could choose, there will be someone that has more or less than you do, or is more or less proficient than you. When most persons are asked about “Darwin’s Theory,” they usually say “That the Strongest will survive.”  We then take this to mean that we must compete and be better than others to survive. The principle of Darwin’s theory is actually “survival of the Fittest,” which implies that all would work together to ensure that all would benefit. When we become comfortable with our uniqueness and begin to Love our Self for who and what we are, we relinquish the need for comparison to others.

The next step is to understand that the past does not change and the future never gets here. Looking back in time often causes regret and looking ahead creates anxiety. Everything that we Experience is Now, in a series of Present Moments. So right now as you read this, how is your Life Situation? You do have a choice right now to BE; why not choose to be happy?

Letting go of the comparison of things is also easier when we realize that we are often comparing ourselves to someone else’s highlight reel!

My Love and Peace to You,

Tony Sellaway, author of Life: Without the Rose Tinted Glasses

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What are You Capable of Being?

 

Each of us go through our Life Experience as it comes to us, one Present Moment at a time. We sometimes think of it in terms of months, days or years but it actually comes in small intervals.

Time flows in the same way for all human beings; every human being flows through time in a different way.

Yasunari Kawabata

When we begin to realize that our thoughts influence our lives, our attitude and our perspective, we can gain more control in each moment by paying attention to our thoughts.

Our thoughts affect us on many levels, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. With so much being influenced by what we think, we can begin to exert small changes in these areas of our Life Experience. By continually looking for positive Life Lessons in each Present Moment, our focus changes to feeling good, which is the basis for Well-Being. This will necessarily improve your existence in the different areas of your Life. You will begin to attract more “good feeling” thoughts. This change in perception will make you more capable of changing your Self and your world. It might not happen all at once but then neither does your Life Experience.

Bruce Lipton and Gregg Braden have shown the heart and our thoughts can affect our lives.

As we become more cognizant of our thoughts in each Present Moment, we are capable of controlling our Life Experience. Sort of like “As a man thinketh…” 🙂

Tony Sellaway

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How Do We Implement Change?

When we look at what composes our Life Experience, it helps to notice that it does not occur in years, not months, not even days. It is a series of Present Moments that can, if you like, be strung together to form a timeline of events of your preferential designation. Some have said, “Don’t sweat the small stuff!” I’d like to implore that we should BE cognizant, of and in, each Present Moment. How you decide to look at it, will determine what you get out these moments. If one looks for the beauty or the madness of The Moment, they will find it.

So often if we dwell on the past, we can experience some form of regret; and if we dwell on the future, we can experience some form of anxiety. Now, I ask you at this Present Moment, what is wrong? 🙂

This is a simple practice of being appreciative and attentive in the Now. So how does this relate to change? Just as our Life Experience occurs in small increments, so does the process of change with our Self. We often are looking for some large, noble event to signify our change, growth or awakening.

The beginning of change starts with each of us, first. As we note that our physical growth occurs over time in small increments, similarly, our Awakening, both mentally and spiritually, occur in small increments. It is a process for our Self. Also know that the one person that you have 100% control over is You. You don’t control others though you can be an influence, a light, a guide; but they have to make their own change to their Self. As we awaken, our light shines brighter and our world get lighter. The change we seek begins one person at a time, over a series of time but just like a ripple in a body of water, it can continue to travel in ever widening circles. Improve yourself, improve your world!

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How is Your Life Flowing?

When we look around at our individual situation right now, what we see depends on our point of view.

A theme to my Life Experience is, “We don’t see the world as it is, we see it the way we are.” Each of us has a unique perspective when we view a situation. The same situation can and will have a different meaning for each person; and that is OK. In each Present Moment, we have a choice as to how or what we are going to BE. We think “I am happy and grateful” and our view of our surroundings will from a positive view. Conversely, when we think “I am really perturbed or frustrated”, our perspective will tend to be a bit negative. in short though, our point of view is influenced by how we are in the moment.

 

React v. Respond

As a situation or event unfolds in front of us, we have a choice in how we are going to handle it. One of my earlier teachers in my awakening taught me to think ten times before I speak. Thought travels at 24 billion miles per second so there is not actually a long delay in the response. The practice of hearing, listening, thinking and BEing in a particular state of mind before commenting or acting allows for One to respond with intention rather than to react to the situation with sometimes unintended feelings, emotions, words and/or actions.

 

 

As we allow ourselves to BE in a state of Peace, Happiness and Love, and looking for the lesson we are to learn from it, our view of a situation will let is be “responsable” rather than reactive. You are constantly in the flow of the stream of the Universe; you can decide whether to paddle upstream against the current or use the paddles to guide you downstream with the current. It is then not a matter of ignoring unpleasant situations but rather adjusting our point of view which then allows us to maintain a “Calm in the Storm of the Life situation.”

 

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YOU ARE Here…

On Your Path, there are many questions that arise. Let’s  briefly address two of them: “Who are you?” and “Where are you?” To make this a little more personal, let’s ask “Who am I? and “Where am I?” We are each living our individual experiences and as such, we will ofttimes see the same thing from different perspectives; and that is OK. When we can acknowledge AND accept that others will have a different point of view, we allow ourselves to encompass a broader view which then allows us to learn more.

Many times when we are answering questions, we refer to information and/or knowledge that we have accumulated on our Path. Again, there are numerous sources of information and it can be learned differently, understood differently and thus applied differently. Again, this is OK. When we begin our process of educating ourselves about ourselves, one of the optimal places to first look is at our SELF. By using yourself as the primary subject, we can reduce the need for comparing our Path, though it will not eliminate the comparisons; but we need to start somewhere. Also, understand that it is OK to question what you know.So as we look at our sources of our knowledge and how we apply our knowledge, we start the process of learning by sometimes un-learning what we thought we knew.

Let’s look at an example of something that has varied views. When I say “GOD”, what comes to your mind? When I say Universe or Source, do you have the same image or understanding? Which of the terms do you feel you are a part of, and which do you think you are separate from?

If you scoop a bucket of water from the ocean as you are standing on the beach, what is the water in the bucket and is it different from the ocean because it is in the bucket? Take this same analogy to YOU and your view of your SELF.Referring back to what makes you feel and/or think you are a part of, rather than being separate from; we can begin to see how it is easier to build a relationship with what we are, something we are familiar with or see the similarities with. As we realize that WE are not as separate from each other; and in turn from whom created US, we then begin to reduce the reasons for superficial differences. When we start applying this to our daily lives, we begin to see that all the so-called social, economical, political and racial differences really are not important.

How do we apply this “new found” knowledge of our SELF to our two questions? If we see ourselves as a smaller part of The Universe, individual yet connected by a common Source, we can all create a new world for ourselves and a new World collectively. We can say, “I AM the creator of my world, which is where I AM Here and Now.”

My Love, Peace and Happiness to you on Your Life Experience…Namasté

 

Tony Sellaway

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When do You question what you believe?

Is there a difference between knowing and believing?

I often say the best way to get an answer is to ask a question. When we look at the vast amount of information that is present and then consider how much of that information do we each either have access to, have experienced or even just heard of, our actual knowledge base begins to become relatively small.

 

There are so many sources of information; books, television and print media, mentors, friends, clergy and just BEING, to name a few.. When we attain it, it becomes knowledge. The practical application of that knowledge can be considered wisdom. When we are acutely aware in our Life Experience, we will see that everyone and everything is our teacher. In our grasping that concept,  we would do well to start considering each of our sources of information and their sources as well as their intent in providing us with that information.

Just because we know something doesn’t necessarily mean that it is right, wrong, true or false. It is the same with a belief. Some of the sources of our beliefs are from persons we never met whom lived hundreds or thousands of years ago. So if you were present when that information was first divulged, would you have readily accepted that information? When you receive information now from someone you know or have heard of, do you just accept it or are you skeptical or possibly endeavor in some research? In some cases, what would make you accept something from some source you have never seen while rejecting it from a source that you know? Being a contemporary in the age of information you are using to base your beliefs on can be a challenge either to accept or reject particularly if we do not research the sources.

What is a belief? Is it synonymous with a fact? One way to look at a belief is that it is an opinion of a person or group of persons based on their perspective of gathered information. A fact is information that even when observed from different points of view can be determined as true from all sides. Beliefs can be based on facts but are rarely facts themselves but rather information that is used to bolster or validate our opinion or point of view. This is where the questioning of our beliefs can become a beginning of a learning process; because sometimes we have to unlearn what we know and believe in order to gain new perspectives.

When we seek to understand first our own reasons for having certain beliefs, then understanding that there are over 7 billion persons on this planet with varying beliefs, we can then also begin to look at what another person believes not as a point of contention or division but as another way to see things. Not right or wrong, just different; and that’s OK.

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